Kirstie.V has been singing since the age of four – but during the years of abuse she suffered from an ex-partner, she gave up her passion and lost all confidence.
Now that she’s single and in a much better place in her life, she wants to use the platform her music has given her to help women who are still experiencing domestic abuse. She is currently recording the final three tracks for her second album, which is about relationships and her personal experiences of domestic violence.
The album ‘I Am Woman’ will be released this summer on Ultrawave Records. It’s “everything for women to feel empowered and know they don’t have to be in these relationships,” Kirstie said.
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Kirstie will donate all proceeds from the new album to the charity Women’s Aid. Although she said she was very grateful to Next Link for giving her the support and guidance needed to get her over with her ex-partner, after researching several charities she decided to go with it. Women’s Aid as they also support children.
A mother of two herself, she feels it is important to support children who have suffered the effects of domestic violence. She said, “I use my album as a platform to raise awareness about domestic violence.
“While I was in there [abusive] relationship, I completely stopped music and it shook my confidence, I wasn’t doing the things I loved. This relationship ended after much support from domestic violence services.
“I thank Next Link for all the advice and support they gave me, but I chose Women’s Aid because they specifically help women and children. Next Link and all the services have given me so much that I want to keep giving back – especially now that I have knowledge and understanding I want to share this with everyone to help others.
Kirstie recorded her debut album in 2018, which she did independently, and donated all proceeds from the album to mental health charity Mind. She wanted to support the mental health charity after seeing how domestic violence had damaged her mental health and that of women around her who had gone through similar experiences.
She said writing lyrics was a great release for her and helped her “massively” overcome the traumatic experience of being in emotionally abusive relationships. She also received comments from family and friends who connected emotionally to her songs, with one friend even saying she was moved to tears after listening to one of her tracks.
Her mother has told her that the music is very “relative”, but wonders why she doesn’t use it to make money for herself. For Kirstie, music is for love and was never about making money.
She said: “It’s not about winning anything for me, it was never about making money. I am now stronger in myself, comfortable with my finances – it’s not about that, it’s just doing what I love, it makes me happy.
“I’ve never felt so safe with myself and want to use my music in a really positive way that people can connect with.”
She hopes the platform music has given her will not only allow her to help women through her charitable donations and lyrics that resonate with women experiencing domestic violence, but also give her the opportunity to raise awareness around the world. public.
Kirstie believes that her experiences and the subsequent counseling she received from domestic violence services enabled her to recognize the signs of abuse, which are often under the radar because they may be subtle or unrecognized by the person in the abusive relationship. . .
She said talking to Next Link reassured her because it helped her understand that what she was going through was abuse and that it wasn’t all in her head: It’s not physical, I haven’t experienced that. , it was more the narcissistic behavior, the manipulation that gives the impression of going crazy.
“Sometimes it can be just a passing comment, telling you what to wear or asking you to dye your hair, but over a period of time it really impacts your mental health, I’ve seen it with friends too.
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“When friends mention things it’s easy to go back and say, ‘you know it’s wrong’, I feel quite defensive and protective of my friends and family because I lived it.
“Women shouldn’t feel worried or think it’s a weakness to go to Next Link or Women’s Aid because it’s the best thing I’ve ever done and I wouldn’t be doing music now if I did not leave these negative relationships behind me.
“It’s really hard to see it when you’re there, there are so many different women right now going through things that they think they have to put up with for the family lifestyle or for the kids.
“The most heard phrase is, ‘it’s not that bad’, but when you review what they actually told you and what’s actually going on, it’s really bad.
“I think we can massively misinterpret the difference between control and love, their partners make them think they need them and won’t find anyone else.
“My music and my album were more to say, you don’t need them, you can survive without them.”
Besides her music, Kirstie also has her own clothing brand called She is all that.
She said her clothing brand is named after a popular 90s movie because she wanted to celebrate the era of girl power, which she remembers from her childhood.
The clothing brand she launched a few months ago is listed in a section of designer Otis Grey’s website and a selection of her clothes named after her new album will also be used to raise money for Women’s Aid .
She is also planning an event in Bristol for the launch of her album this summer, which will also be aimed at women, with proceeds from ticket sales also going to Women’s Aid.
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